Recently, a well-meaning (I assume. Trying to give him the benefit of doubt) person made a decision for me. He says he did it out of concern for my “condition.” The result was a “choice.” I could either step down from an activity I was doing and return to a lesser activity or I could continue in the activity “but with higher expectations.” The “choice” was mine to make, but the conversation made clear which option was correct.
Please note that at no time was an offer made to find out why I was physically unsteadier doing that activity. No effort was expended to teach, train, or develop the skill (“aggressive enthusiasm”) I was missing.
“For my own good,” I was dismissed from the activity.
Not to worry. I’ll land just fine.
Truly, though, when you’re dealing with people, don’t make their decisions unless they are incapable of doing so. If you see them struggling with something or not performing at the level they should, find out what’s going on. Ask what help is needed, if any.